Being asked to be the best man is an incredible honor. It signifies a bond of friendship, trust, and maybe a few of shared shenanigans over the years.

Your speech is a chance to celebrate that friendship and the amazing couple at the center of it all. But how do you find the right words?

Here are some best man speech dos and don'ts to guide you.

The Gist: How Long Should It Be?

Aim for your best man's speech to last about three to five minutes.

Any shorter than three minutes, and you likely didn't put much thought or effort into it. Any longer than five minutes, and you risk losing the audience's attention or rambling.

The sweet spot of three to five minutes gives you enough time to touch on some highlights and sentimental moments without droning on.

DO: Start With an Attention-Grabbing Opening

Capturing everyone's attention from the beginning is a key public speaking strategy, so start with something punchy and engaging.

Funny stories about the groom (as long as they're respectful) are always a good starting place for a best man speech.

Other possibilities could be a quote that's meaningful to your friendship or a lighthearted joke.

DON'T: Drink Too Much Before Speaking

It's tempting to calm your nerves with some liquid courage before giving your speech, but too many drinks could lead to slurred words, rambling, or revealing embarrassing stories you shouldn't share.

Have no more than one to two drinks max before taking the mic.

DO: Share (Appropriate) Stories and Sincere Compliments

The meat of your best man speech should focus on celebrating the groom—his great qualities, a few stories that highlight your friendship, what he means to you, and why you believe he'll make a wonderful husband.

Don't be afraid to get a little sentimental. Delivering a truly heartfelt speech will make the groom feel loved and the couple feel celebrated.

DON'T: Bring Up Exes or Make Inside Jokes

When you're delivering a wedding speech, your job is to honor the newlyweds, not bring up past relationships or make jokes that would go over the heads of most guests.

Those inside jokes may seem innocent to you, but they could leave others feeling confused or excluded. Leave them out of your best man speech.

DO: Acknowledge the New Spouse

While the focus of your best man speech should be on the groom, the most effective best man speeches include a welcome for the new spouse into your circle.

Some kind words about how they've positively impacted the groom's life or why they make a great partner will mean a lot.

DON'T: Overshare or Tell Wildly Inappropriate Stories

A wedding speech is not the time to divulge the groom's deepest, darkest secrets or scandalous tales from their bachelor party.

Keep things relatively PG by avoiding anything too raunchy, explicit, or that could deeply embarrass the couple in front of family and friends.

A little gentle roasting is fine in good fun, but don't cross the line.

DO: End on a Heartwarming, Memorable Note

You've grabbed the audience's attention, made them laugh, and paid tribute to the couple.

Now it's time to bring it home. End your best man speech with a sweet sentiment about your friendship with the groom, some well-wishes for their marriage, or an inspiring quote about love and commitment. You want the crowd admiring the newlyweds as you finish up.

Pro Speech Tips

• Practice, practice, practice beforehand, but don't memorize verbatim to avoid sounding robotic

• Maintain excellent posture and make eye contact to connect with the crowd

• Speak slowly and enunciate clearly. Use the mic if one is provided.

• If you get nervous, take a pause and a sip of water before continuing.

• Smile and stay positive throughout. This is a joyous occasion!

A best man speech isn't just about words, it's about the love and support you offer your friend as he enters this new chapter.

Embrace the opportunity, speak from the heart, and let your words be a testament to the incredible bond you share.

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