Are you engaged to a service member, or perhaps you're in the military yourself? We understand that planning a wedding while navigating military life can feel overwhelming at times, no matter how excited you are about getting married. That's why I created this blog—to offer support and guidance. Let us help you create a beautiful and memorable celebration that honors your love and your service.

WHAT IS A MILITARY WEDDING?

A military wedding is a ceremony where either the bride or groom (or both) are active members of the armed forces. These weddings often incorporate military traditions and customs. While not all couples choose to include every military element, understanding these options will help you create a celebration that reflects both your service and your personal preferences.

INVITATION WORDING

One items couples tend to wonder about is how they should approach invitations for a military wedding. Generally, you should follow the same guidelines as you would for any wedding, but there are a few special considerations:

Rank and Branch

Include the military rank and branch of service for the bride and/or groom. For example: "Lieutenant John Smith, United States Navy."

Uniform Indication

If you want guests to wear uniforms, include a line such as "Uniform Requested" or "Military Dress Uniform."

Host Line

If the military member's parents are hosting, their rank can be included if applicable. For example: "Colonel and Mrs. James Thompson request the honor of your presence..."

ATTIRE FOR THE MILITARY BRIDE OR GROOM

The attire for a military bride or groom adds a distinctive touch to the wedding.

Military groom: Typically wears his dress uniform. The specific uniform depends on the branch of service and can vary based on the time of day (e.g., Army Blue Evening Mess for evening weddings).

Military bride: Has the option to wear her dress uniform or a traditional wedding gown. If choosing a gown, she may incorporate military accessories like a cape in branch colors or insignia jewelry.

Non-military partner: Can wear traditional wedding attire or complement their partner's uniform with color-coordinated clothing or accessories.

Keep in mind that regulations about wearing uniforms at private ceremonies can vary by branch, so it's Important to check current rules.

MILITARY WEDDING TRADITIONS

Military weddings are known for unique—and completely optional—traditions that honor the couple's service:

Saber or Sword Arch

Perhaps the most iconic military wedding tradition, this is where service members form an arch with their sabers or swords for the couple to walk through.

Cutting the Cake with a Sword

The couple uses a military sword to cut their wedding cake.

Displaying the American Flag

Proper flag etiquette should be observed if you’re including flags in the décor.

Playing Service Songs

Each branch has its own song, which can be played during the reception.

Military Chaplain

Couples may choose to have a military chaplain officiate the ceremony.

ETIQUETTE AND RULES TO CONSIDER

When planning a military wedding, there are several etiquette points and rules to keep in mind:

Permission to Marry

Some branches require service members to obtain permission before marrying, especially if marrying a foreign national.

Uniforms

Again, there are specific regulations about when and how uniforms can be worn. Check with your branch's protocol office for current rules.

Seating Arrangements

At formal military weddings, guests may be seated according to rank.

Receiving Line

If you’re having a receiving line, the order typically follows military protocol with the bride's parents first, then the couple, then the groom's parents.

Name Changes

If you’ll be changing your name, remember to update all military records promptly.

Military Installations

If you plan to hold your wedding on a military base, be aware of security procedures for civilian guests.

INFORMATION TO SHARE WITH CIVILIAN GUESTS

Your guests are going to have questions about what to expect at your wedding and if there’s anything they should keep in mind. Help them by providing detailed information on your wedding website. This should include:

Base access: If the wedding is on a military installation, provide clear instructions on how to access the base, including any required documentation.

Dress code: Explain any military dress codes and provide guidance for civilian attire.

Customs and courtesies: Brief explanation of military customs they might encounter, such as standing for service songs.

Photography rules: Some military locations may have restrictions on photography.

Timing: Military events often start precisely on time—emphasize the importance of punctuality.

POTENTIAL CHALLENGES

While military weddings are beautiful and meaningful, they come with unique challenges:

Deployment: The possibility of sudden deployment can affect wedding plans. Have a backup date or plan, and invest in Wedding Cancellation and Postponement Insurance.

Budget constraints: Military salaries, especially for junior enlisted members, may necessitate careful budgeting.

Time off: Getting leave approved for the wedding and honeymoon will require advance planning.

Long-distance planning: If the couple is separated due to assignments, coordinating details can be challenging.

A FEW WORDS OF ADVICE

Start planning early. Given the potential for deployment or reassignment, begin planning as soon as possible.

Be flexible. As you know, military life can be unpredictable. Try to build flexibility into your plans where possible.

Communicate clearly. Make sure all vendors understand the unique aspects of your military wedding.

Seek support. Connect with other military couples or seek advice from the base's family support services.

Remember the meaning: Amidst the planning and protocol, don't lose sight of the reason for the celebration: your love and commitment to each other.

A final thought: Whether you choose a full military ceremony or just a hint of military tradition, your day will be special because it represents the beginning of your new life together.

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