Your wedding day is a beautiful celebration of your love and the life you and your partner are beginning.
For many couples, a wedding is also an important opportunity to honor their cultural heritage and traditions.
Weaving cultural elements into your wedding allows you to share a meaningful part of yourselves with your families and guests. It creates a warm, personal atmosphere and helps educate others about the histories and customs you cherish.
So Many Ways to Highlight Your Cultural Heritage
Including aspects of your cultural background can take an endless variety of forms. You can opt for traditional clothing, ceremonies, colors, flowers, music, dances, readings, foods, or other rituals in your wedding celebrations.
Some couples choose to fully immerse themselves in centuries-old wedding customs, while others aim to artfully blend traditions in a modern way.
In this article, we're exploring cultural traditions for weddings along with some tips for those of you who'd like to incorporate cultural elements into your special day.
Cultural Traditions Before the Wedding
Many cultures have unique pre-wedding traditions and rituals. For example, traditional Chinese weddings are preceded by longstanding customs like giving the bride's family gifts and the groom retrieving his bride through a series of games.
In certain Native American tribes, the couples and their families prepare for marriage through special fasting and sweating rituals.
And many Hindu brides have a mehndi ceremony where beautiful, intricate henna designs are applied to the bride's hands and feet.
Incorporating Cultural Traditions Into Your Wedding Ceremony
Your wedding ceremony provides the perfect setting to incorporate cultural traditions. These practices span everything from the vows you exchange and readings you choose to the music and rituals performed.
A few examples include jumping the broom (an African-American custom), Celtic hand-fasting, breaking the glass in a Jewish ceremony, tying ceremonial cords or lassoes in Hispanic culture, engaging in choreographed Hindu dances, taking part in a Chinese tea ceremony, and so much more.
You don't have to feel limited in how you meld practices, either. For instance, one Hindu-Jewish couple walked around one another seven times as per Hindu custom, then the groom stomped on a glass at the end as a nod to Jewish tradition. Get creative in thoughtfully blending the traditions you wish to uphold.
Cultural Attire and Accessories
Wedding attire is one of the most visually striking ways to showcase your cultural heritage.
You might, for instance, choose to wear beautifully embroidered, intricate garb with cultural significance to you for all or part of your wedding day. Many Indian brides wear a red lengha or sari to honor tradition.
Jamaican brides may incorporate banana accessories into their attire as a symbol of fertility.
Other couples select accessories or accents in traditional colors and patterns to incorporate into a modern dress or suit.
If you wish to make a full ethnic attire change, you may wear traditional clothing during the ceremony and opt for a trendier reception look afterward, during your reception.
Another approach is having moms, grandmas, or other family members dressed in cherished cultural garb during parts of the ceremony.
Meaningful Traditions During Your Wedding Reception
Your focus on cultural traditions doesn't have to end once you've completed your marriage vows.
The reception is an excellent place to continue celebrating your background. The venue décor, flowers, tablescapes, stationery, cakes, and favors can all tie into your cultural aesthetics and motifs. Handmade items and handicrafts make lovely personalized touches as well.
On the Menu
You could also offer traditional foods or culinary performances that offer a taste of your heritage. A Southwestern couple may set up a quesadilla station while a Moroccan duo might feature tea pourers brewing fresh mint tea.
Incorporate Traditional Music Into the Celebration
Music sets the mood and feel for the entire event.
Some couples hire musicians, drummers, or dancers to perform cultural musixc. Others blend genres by having a mainstream band play covers of folk songs or using bilingual DJs.
You could plan for special cultural line dances or encourage guests to join in with plate-breaking or other festive customs.
Small traditions like tossing Jordan almonds or lighting unity candles can be worked in.
Finding a Balance
For some families, reconciling traditions with modern expectations or combining differing customs can be a delicate matter.
It's important to start having open and thoughtful conversations with all involved parties well in advance. Approach these talks with compassion and a willingness to listen to different perspectives. Look for areas where compromise is possible. For example, you can move a ceremony ritual to a more private setting to appease certain relatives. Or, you might agree to uphold one side's tradition at the ceremony and the other side's at the reception.
At the end of the day, this is your wedding, and you and your partner should make the decisions that feel right for you as a couple. But with patience and understanding on everyone's part, solutions can usually be found.
At the Heart of Your wedding
No matter which aspects of your ethnic heritage you decide to honor, remember that the most important thing is that those traditions hold deep meaning and happiness for you both. Small gestures done authentically from the heart can be just as powerful as large productions. Don't stress too much about getting every single detail right; the spirit and thoughtfulness behind your efforts is what counts most.
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